Thursday, 21 July 2011

I Can’t Believe I’m Doing This!

I can’t believe I’m doing this! / My friend told me about this site, so I thought I’d try it out, etc.

The fact that you're posting a personal ad is the one thing that can't possibly distinguish yourself from anyone else on there. You don't need to make excuses for why you're on a dating site. You probably have the same reason everyone else has: because it makes dating more convenient.

Skip the apologies and move on to what makes you different from other people!

Tuesday, 19 July 2011

DO the following Always

Some tips you should always take into account when writing up your online dating profile.
  1. Write clearly. Avoid using big words to seem impressive. Write for the common man.
  2. Promote your unique qualities. There is an advantage to being unique, so abuse it if you can. If you’re doing something out of the ordinary.
  3. Edit often. Try to keep yourself fresh and new, even if it means removing/adding info. Hell, keep your “favorites” list updated if you must.
  4. Expect little response. No matter how perfect your profile is, don’t expect a flood of responses.

Sunday, 17 July 2011

Spontaneous, Social and Adorable

Another great profile example! this is very upbeat and has a real dynamic movement and pace to it, it really reflects the dynamic and spontaneous nature of the person.

I am a very outgoing and social woman. I love meeting new and like minded people. I'm always up for a good time. I'm very caring, funny and cute. I have a lot of energy and am very entertaining and talkative.

I love to be spoiled by my man but enjoy returning the favour. I am a romantic at heart and loved being swept off my feet.

I have a lust for ally things great in this world, great food, great friends and great adventures.

I am spontaneous, social, and adorable.

A Big Dreamer

Here is a nice example of an online dating profile. I down to earth, real person, with passions and a little bit of kinkiness:

I love beautiful things, love to have fun in the moment and am always dreaming bigger! Friends and family are super important to me. I am chirpy, fun and I like spontaneity and good grammar. I love to write...I mean really really love to write and barely go a day without doing it in some way...I am a verypassionate person and so often am too full on for some people. I am fascinated with human interaction and computer mediated communication and why people do the things they do. I collect typewriters, enjoy philosphical conversations and star gazing. I take on too much all the time and pole dancing is my sport of choice.

No Weird Over 40s Pls

Another terrible example of a dating profile I came across today:

I'm not too into online dating, because it's weird, and a normal person comes around once in a blue moon. I know nothing probably won't ever happen, but It's addicting and fun! haha!
btw it really really bugs me when i see that you have repeatedly stalked my profile and your like, 40.

I am cute, lovely, and kind

Well honey if it is so weird to online date then why don't you piss off! lol

Cute, lovely and kind, but only if you are not an inappropriate old bastard.

Tendency to be Negative

The other day I came across someone who wrote this in part of their dating profile:

I have a tendency of sometimes being quite negative, this is something I am working on slowly, I try to accept people in spite of the things that I dislike about them as I'm sure they do for me for which I am deeply grateful.

Now, considering how many people are available to pick from in the dating world, I would probably really stay clear of someone who not only recognises themselves as negative (even if they are improving they still identify as that) and who tends to look at what they dislike in others first.

DO NOT do the following EVER

Ok here is a list of things you should NEVER do on your online dating profile!

  1. Act depressed/whiny. Too many profiles start off with “no guy wants me” or “I know no-one will read this, but…”. Avoid it.
  2. Talk about money, politics, or religion. It’s crude. You can mention your political/religious affiliation, but don’t preach.
  3. Post lists or otherwise flood your profile. Information is wonderful, excessive information is poison to the mind. If asked to list your favourite movies/music, keep it to five or less. Any more is ridiculous.
  4. Include poetry, stories, song lyrics, etc. This goes along with flooding your profile, but it tends to be even worse. Poetry is best left to the masters, probably not you.